With that in mind, there are great ideas in this discussion thread of ways to do exactly that. Your ward contains women at various stages of their lives, including some who dont have children and never will. As for me, I will be sitting this Mothers day out. And I did use some of the suggestions here. The Damage of Mormon Mother's Day Myths - Zelophehad's Daughters XD. . It was an emotional rollercoaster of raised hopes and disappointments. I agree Ray. His topic? If So, Should We Pray Out Loud? It hurts. Something else for me to kill.. On the other hand, women tended to speak about motherhood as the most emotionally-exhausting and time-consuming chore imaginable. Thanks for reminding me so I can stay home. Julie B. Beck reminds women what it means to be a mother who knows listing a number of attributes, including the principles of bearing children, honoring sacred covenants, nurturing others, doing less, teaching, and leading. But from my description, it sounds like the typical platitudinous MD talk. The speakers were: 70-year-old married sister w/ no children; mid-30s sister who works full-time, dh is the stay-at-home parent, and theyve adopted 2 children through the foster care system; and a single sister. So for over a decade, Ive loved Mothers Day, just because I know it wont end with all of us crying. Not an official website of the The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. But I love my mother, and I miss her, so Im hopeful that the experience will be a good one. When I was bishop, my bishopric would always serve pie during the third hour and Id invite my mom to attend. I did this for five years and the sisters seemed to enjoy sitting, chatting, and not having a child demanding a bit of their pie. I spoke one Mothers Day about Eve and Mary, and thought it was a good talk and well-received. Daughters of God The perfect sacrament meeting talk? A day focused on mothers is hard enough for many women, and much more so when thats all they hear about at church. He gets points for effort and most humorous and memorable! He did not have any high-profile ward or stake calling at the time, not that it matters. My bishop knows where its at, and we always get Dove bars, Milk for those of unrefined taste and Dark for the rest of us. Why Women, Especially Mothers, Working Outside the Home is an Abomination Unto the Lord. But these are good points. Alece 100 it is a bit rich for you to interpret that your comment and that quote by Lewis mean the same thing. Just asking. Im sort of hoping that the person before me goes too long and I have to wrap up with my testimony. Nourishing both body and souls.Just my humble opinion. What does that say about us as a people? I think it turned out great. I wonder if a member of our bishopric reads this blog? Just to be clear - I meant 'written/given' by women (aka musical number "O My Father" written by Eliza R Snow, conf talk by Reeve/Oscarson/Okazaki). The Spirits constant companionship is one of the greatest gifts of mortality. Aleah Ingram Really perfect for MD! Focus on womanhood and examples of strong women, not on a perfect homemaker mother. Women are saved in child bearing is good as always. May the blessings of heaven rest upon you. Yeah, it would be pretty late to be thinking about music now. They cannot eat it, and in fact just having the stuff around is a serious temptation to do so. My preference is for a talk focusing on women of the scriptures. At a certain point, their best has to be enough. It worked well in my ward, I think. Mormon women are harder on themselves than any other group of ladies I have associated with. Sacrament - The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints Maybe, eventually, I will heal and that will change. After a lot of thought and prayer I called two sisters to speak on some of the blessings and also the challenges of raising children in the gospel. Watching the Primary children singing to their mothers in Sacrament meeting was the hardest. I dont mean to be rude, but I know I will have anxiety over killing it and then I *will* kill it and then I will have to look at its dead body. I meant an ideal not an idea! Too often folks with food allergies, diabetes, and similar challenges are left feeling like second class saints in our food-laden church culture. Today the sacrament is an ordinance in which Church members partake of bread and water in remembrance of Jesus Christs atoning sacrifice. In partaking of the sacrament and making these commitments, Church members renew the covenant they made at baptism (see Mosiah 18:810; Doctrine and Covenants 20:37). Have all the talks be by women. It demands that the single day of the year that Mother's are celebrated to a holiday that is solely for adult females and no one else. Integrate how Jesus takes care of his mother's future well being while hanging on the cross with the scripture John 19:26-27. He suffered for the sins, sorrows, and pains of all people, providing remission of sins for those who repent and live the gospel (see 2Nephi 9:2123). All Latter-day Saint Youth Need to Hear Ready to Rise, Popular Rapper Says He Wants to Be Baptized into The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, FREE I Can Do All Things Through Christ Sheet Music + Music Video, Latter-day Saint Missionaries Perform Is There Room, Official 2023 Youth Theme Music Video: I Can Do All Things Through Christ, Popular Rapper Says He Wants to Be Baptized into The Church. Motherhood as a path to choose to be a better disciple of Christ by caring for those Christ lives.feed my sheep, etc. Young Latter-day Saint priesthood . Great post, Mark! Even now, 4 years after her passing, I miss her. When we value families so strongly we should celebrate the roles of motherhood and fatherhood. all while X sat smugly on the stand. On the road this week I attend Mother's day services with the fourth ward in St George Utah. Serious question for everyone, just out of true curiosity: How many of these horror stories happened in the last five years? For myself and kindred too, Lewis moments ago which speaks directly to those thoughts: Alece, Based on the comments it seems to be prevalent everywhere in the US church. Respect her. Ive endured (and thats the right word) too many Mothers Days that were awful, meaningless, and unrealistic. Inevitably they would be instructed that the gifts were for all women, so theyd try hard to give me one. It was perhaps the best talk I gave as a bishop. don't get me wrong, I'm not bragging. That said, I cant say I recall ever hearing a bad Mothers Day talk. #46 That is an awesome idea for your talk. I was reading about the origins of Mothers Day. Ugh.chocolate and cheescake.and NO TALKS!!! Didn't Sheri Dew give a talk titled, "Are We Not All Mothers?" So Im on for Mothers Day and have been assigned Julie Becks talk on the history of Relief Society as topic. Is this really the Mothers Day message I need? ( Bonus: You get to visit Relief Society and YW! Crowd-sourcing request. Sacrament Meeting - The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints I believe it is by divine design that the role of motherhood emphasizes the nurturing and teaching of the next generation.. This is something better done away with. Latter-day Saints in a contemporary congregation partake of the sacrament. An ideal is fine to have in your own life, but imo it is dangerous to attempt to have one for a worldwide religious organization. Being there with my son was very nice. Latter-day Saints to Attend Sacrament Meeting Only on Christmas Day Feelings of guilt, shame, loneliness, anger, disappointment, abandonment, and not measuring up to impossible expectations are prevalent. I pray the Spirit will be with me today as I give this talk. Through this ordinance, Church members renew the covenants they made with God when they were baptized. One year they handed out Sheri Dews talk Are We Not All Mothers? and I thought that was cool. Not until the 1600s did people start associating the holiday with their own actual mothers (Mothering Day in the UK). Topical Guide, Assembly for Worship, Index to the Triple Combination, Assemble, Meetings in the Church, Handbook 2, 18, Speaking in Sacrament Meeting? youth.ChurchofJesusChrist.org, Is Sacrament Meeting a Top-of-the-Mountain Experience for You? 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A nod to moms but no pedestal worshiping. "I am a sociopathic perverted mess emotionally and mentally thanks to the influence of my insane codependent mother.'". It is not that women want to be from Venus, but they want to be from Venus five universes beyond our own. The hard part for me is when I hear talks about angel mothers where I actually know whom they are talking about. Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Nuts. Someone explain this. I think its good to have something to air at! If you want to hear from real women who haveread scriptures andheld FHEand family prayer, but whose son is in jail or whose 16-year-old daughter is pregnant or whose husband has left her, then you should meet in the cultural hall. Variations included a verse for when mommy comes home stoned, with descriptions of bratty violent Mormon children and a terrible version only whispered with stifled giggles including titillating, lolita overtones. There there is the secular appeal - it causes a pain to those who are not mothers. 34 Ideas for LDS Sacrament Meeting Talks When People Don't Apologize: Forgiving and finding reconciliation with God Would borrow from Forgiveness + Tribulation, a talk I gave fall 2019. I did live in one ward where the mothers always got plants but the fathers always got cookies. Aleah served a mission in California and loves baking, Lang Leav poetry, Gaynor Minden pointe shoes, and Bollywood movies. Im sure that attendance in RS would be higher on that day though. Although the later version of Mothers Day in the US was to honor mothers, it retained its association with peace as carnations were given out as a symbol of peace (white if ones mother was dead, pink if alive). Latter-day Saint Life. Worst Moms Day talk ever: when we (and most of our friends) were newlyweds, one of our friends (a guy) was asked to give the big glory of motherhood talk. It will easily demonstrate the weaknesses in the position: The logic is faulty. We got the story about women blessing their cows a couple of years ago. Ive been jinxed. Great survey. Yea like all of you My Mother sucked too. Or better yet, teach their classes and let them attend RS for a day? I have suggested the donate-money-to-the-shelter thing for about four years now; it gets a blank stare, followed by a startled, oh! The talks are mostly bearable (though no picnic), but the worst is when the youth would spread out in search of women who were not holding whatever flower or chocolate. The two adult speakers should center their talk on Jesus; if you want, assign a youth speaker to speak on Mothers, the Primary sings a song, and pass out the flower at the end. Actually, Ive never heard anything about Heavenly Mother beyond, Isnt it so wonderful that we believe in a Heavenly Mother?!. Christian churchs teach that you are inherently bad, that it is not entirely your fault and that Christ has already saved you and after He gets around to telling you (if He hasnt already) that you forgiven and are His, you will do nonspecific good things he directs because you will naturally want to do them. Honest! Isnt it reasonable to think that Abe is trying a little too hard, and might be overcompensating for something? I think we should dispense with handing out things and tell everyone weve made a donation to a local womens shelter or program for mothers in need. I have seen, heard and experienced much of the imperfections, joys and sorrows in life, and know that reaching out for and holding on to the Iron Rod brings souls closer to the ideals with every step. I think she says that just because she is my mom. Should we have days for every type of individual? Why in the church is there such a strong, almost secular aversion to motherhood? My favorite Mothers Day talk was my own talk. . Kind of it takes a village/ward to raise a child philosophy. After church we can give dear old dad a cookie in a baggie and a kick in the pants, call it good for another year, and send him home. Well, counselor x/counselor y is in charge of May, I dont know what hes doing for sure . Were here to help! Motherhood as a path to choose to be a better disciple of Christ by caring for those Christ loves.feed my sheep, etc.https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2014/04/wanted-hands-and-hearts-to-hasten-the-work?lang=eng. I mean big ol gnarly wretch. Yet, we have a tendency to go to extremes, particularly culturally, forgetting that we are worshiping God, and that we are not God nor expected to be God in this, our mortal state. When chocolate is handed out, our children end up begging for it but its the one day I wont share. I am actually traveling with my mother and other members of the family this weekend and showed her this in church to get a laugh. I agree with #15youth speaker, song and chocolate and the rest of the meeting devoted to Christ. It was designed with ward choirs and Sacrament Meeting musical numbers in mind. My oldest, the musical and noisy one, composed parodies of many favorite primary songs about a decade ago when she was under the tyranny of those zealous but misguided young mothers. No love in mortality comes closer to approximating the pure love of Jesus Christ than the selfless love a devoted mother has for her child.. Could someone remind of what the day is for after all? And out the door I flee. They want to give a message of comfort and support to other parents who are navigating the difficult conflicts that can arise in families around this issue. God still loves her, and her life still had value and meaningTHE END!! May 2011 was the best mothers day sacrament mtg Ive ever attended. She used several stories from the NT about Christ & his mother Mary to illustrate principles that we can all use to improve our relationships with others. I dont think sacrament meeting is such an inappropriate place to do that, either. Ere the sun goes down, The only Mothers Day event for another church Im aware of is when a friend told me that in her church the main talk is always about Christ no matter what holiday it is, but when its just the women the speaker will focus on motherhood and Christs teaching about mothers. I dont like the sappy talks about the perfect mothers. At my ward the angel mothers were to aspire to. Are you looking for the best LDS talks on motherhood? Im sorry too for the harshness In my expression in a previous thread regarding your views of sacrament meeting. It was both simple and profound. My own plan of attack: 1) lay some knowledge on people (see above), 2) talk about our own mothers and that they are real people who faced real struggles, 3) the Plan of Happiness (is that what were calling it now?) Actually..mother's day should be everyday. I remember something I was told many years ago by a young man in Provo, UT. iPhone. Ill be hiding in the clerks office. Submitting to the will of the Father, He suffered more than we can comprehend: Blood [came] from every pore, so great [was] his anguish for the wickedness and the abominations of his people (Mosiah 3:7). Weve gathered this collection to help you study, write talks, and share powerful LDS quotes about mothers. I miss her something terrible, and being at the grave-site really brought all of those emotions to the surface. Although with good intentions, speakers usually put mothers and motherhood on a pedestal ("Mothers are loving and caring and naturally nurturing", "A mother's love is the closest thing to Christlike love on earth", "No mother is perfect, except my mom, who is literally an . Show me a sinless mother and she can be my ideal too. Ill be checking back! And, even worse, we are also cutting them off from the grace and redemption that Jesus offers. Best Mother's Day Topics, Scriptures, Conference Talks, Etc. rockpond But alas, Mother's Day 11 years ago will forever be known as the day I landed face down on the floor of the chapel, on top of my 3-year-old, in the middle of sacrament meeting, with my skirt flung over my head. Check out our selection of LDS church programs for baptisms, church activities, and sacrament meetings. Mothers Day theme, is the spirit is trying to witness to us at what a dumb idea it is. But since youre not, Im bowing out this year. Yeah. Classic! Families are good about this but public acknowledgement is hard to come by. The Mother's Day Talk PSA - By Common Consent, a Mormon Blog Mark did as well in his postminus the saccharine and accent. They always see what they havent done instead of what they have because they are constantly reminded of what they should be doing. This ordinance is an essential part of worship and spiritual development. Its a complete set-up for failure. However, I am concerned about the implications of a people where the female population dislikes the concept of motherhood or at least dislikes it enough that they do not want to celebrate Mother's Day. Today the sacrament is an ordinance in which Church members partake of bread and water in remembrance of Jesus Christ's atoning sacrifice. But I still think the Dove bars our bishop chooses rock the holiday. She told us that as a girl, she would sit in her room crying, with big welts on the back of her hands, but now that she was grown up, she understood why her mother did it, and she was grateful, by golly. Set them up outside the chapel, or in the kitchen or sometime. Well at least I know what not to talk about. Cant we just give praise and gratitude for the atonement, and human goodness and resiliance inspite its adversity and imperfection? In addition, there are doctrinal and scriptural classes for . I am the wife of a bishopric member, and I used to love Mothers Day. and read for the dayLOL, isnt that a nice dream?? Thanks! They would eat honey cakes and give flowers. Scriptural women are perhaps safer :-) And in our ward, the men get cans of Dads Root Beer or Sugar Daddy candies. Mothers Day was pure torture and the only time I ever serious entertain thoughts of staying home. The rest of us mortals should stick with real. To be fair, diabetics can eat chocolate. But one thing is for sure, Ill be drawing on much of this. But I realize others prefer plants. Thanks. What if you brought in padded RS chairs for the YW & PRI workers, including Nursery sisters, so that they can feel a little comfort on that Sunday? Modal title . Well done! It was part of the talk. However, like you, I thought Fathers Day was a done and done. That bishop that moved his ward away from elaborate gifting was doing the right thing. (If you want to see an example, search mormon tax exemption on Twitter.) May 6, 2017 The responsibility mothers have today has never required more vigilance. In one of my wards, the women of the congregation were given wooden spoons as their gifts at the end of the meeting. Further, that it wasnt the wards responsibility to celebrate the day. Gag. Thats the last thing a mother needs, responsibility for yet another living thing. She talked about how when she was single she was very shallow, only cared about clothes and makeup and boys, didnt prepare herself spiritually, didnt have much of a testimony, and then upon marrying found herself extremely immature and woefully unprepared to be a spiritual leader in her home. LDS Program Covers | Baptisms, Sacrament Meetings, Church Activities Special celebrations can and should be held at home within the family. That being said, my ward will be nice and quiet next Sunday, one of the joys of the YSA wards. We also have free LDS program covers and printable LDS program covers you can print off at home. Men tended to speak about angel mothers who bore no resemblance to mine. I wanted to know more, so here are his thoughts. Mothers Day for me is when my children and Grandchildren call me. "We express our love to those in this congregation and our prayers for the victims and their families. Doesn't it seem strange in a religion that supposedly is so family focused that we have people who ignore the cries of many of the women in church who want to be mothers and can't be or who sorrow over children who are not making good eternal choices? I personally am skeptical of ever looking to people for ideals. My wife and I were not in his ward to hear the talk, but he told us about it later. Avoid speaking of angel mothers. Disciples of Christ know what they want and there is not need to celebrate Christmas in front of others that are not faithful. One of my talks I focused on Moses and the 5 women at the beginning of his life and the different roles they played: Shiphrah & Puah, the midwives who saved his and countless other Hebrew boys lives, Jochebed his birthmother and what it must have taken to put him in the basket and shut the lid (shes a stronger woman than I am! I gave a MD talk one year and focused on Emma Smith, Naomi the MIL of Ruth and my daughter who was a young mother at the time.